Where is the Rule Book?

Something that has crossed my mind lately is that there are no rules in relationships.  Sure, there are dating rules, such as guys feeling pressured to pay for dinner, or when you propose, you are supposed to bend down on one knee.
But I am really focusing on the ways that we talk and communicate with each other.  There really are no rules; no set guidelines telling you, don't say that or yes that is a great thought to express.  Where is the red line drawn that states that if you say this, you will be throwing too hard of a punch or pressing on a vulnerable button?
There is no referee whistling for a time out or handing out penalties.  There is heart break and comfort zones crossed to the point of no return.

Therein lies the fear.  What if you overstep an invisible boundary line?  What do you do with the damage that you cause?  I have no clue.

But then there is the virtue of crossing boundaries in a loving way that reveals raw communication.
The raw communication being two humans, stripping down to the doubt and emotion that we hide from the everyday world.  Romantic love, friendships, family, or mentors; I don't care what relationship it is; the root of the point of these relationships is to see that we are all together burdened by our fear, shame, insecurity.  When we share these vulnerable thoughts and look at each other with clear eyes, we love.

Searching for Inspiration

There are only four questions of value in life. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made of? What is worth living for? What is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.
Don Juan DeMarco (1995 film)

I've taken a bit of hiatus to my search to finding the answers to how we love and how we encounter our understandings of eros.  For that, I apologize.  There are plenty of thoughts running through my head, but they seem to be unrelated to love, at least directly.  Which is why this quote is fitting to redirect myself to How Do You Know?  When I think about religion or spirituality, where is the end of the discussion?  Love.  I have been pondering many areas of my soul, and it's time to focus back to the foundation and continue my thoughts on love.


I am continually grateful for family and friends who point me in new directions of love and encourage me to understand a new perspective or find a new article for me to read.  Thank you for all of your support, readers! : )


As always, please send any questions, topics, experiences that you would like for me to focus on at my new email address, k.wintereulberg@gmail.com!