The more I interview people, the more imperative it seems that we all ned to ask these questions of our family and friends.
Why do we let ourselves and the people we know make these huge commitments, like marriage, without asking all the questions we can think of? Why do we get into serious relationships without discussing things like life goals, morals, and expectations?
It takes our whole lives to understand love--Why the rush to find someone special? Take the time to realize that you are the someone special.
If you can't see the special in yourself, how ever could you find it in someone else?
I challenge you to ask questions to yourself or the people you care about. Without letting anyone or any stereotype define you, who are you? What do you need/want in a relationship? How did your grandparents stay together for so long? What are the most important traits for you in a significant other? How did your recently engaged friend know that he/she would be able to commit to a lifelong partnership? What does your grandparent think about sex before marriage? These questions aren't easy to ask, believe me; I've been trying to fit them into regular conversation and I'm sure it can be seen as inappropriate. But these questions deserve to be asked and answered; you owe it to yourself to understand these things about yourself, and to help your loved ones reach some sort of awareness.
This is so true! This is one of the biggest life lessons learned lately. Learning to know yourself and having friends and family who help you explore by asking questions like those you were mentioning is so important. PS, I love your blog, Kaitlin! Its a shortcut on my phone :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks Miriam!! : ) I love your support--thanks for reading! Yea this is something that I've had on my mind for the past 4 years--it's a very difficult thing to love yourself and know yourself. It is just so easy to be unhealthy with love and our self-love, and our society certainly doesn't make it any easier!
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